Age like a fine wine, not a banana
Last week, my dentist told me that the toothpaste I’ve been using has been yellowing my teeth. Huh? I thought I was using age-appropriate toothpaste and any yellowing was just another unfortunate side-effect of aging. She said the stannous fluoride that you find in products like Crest Pro-Health and Pronamel works in a way that contributes to yellowing and I have been inadvertently speeding up the aging process.
Let’s rewind and acknowledge that there are some very good things about getting older. Experience grants us greater perspective and wisdom. We are more confident and more independent. We do what we want and don’t care so much (or at all) about what other people think. Ingrid Bergman said, “Getting old is like climbing a mountain; you get a little out of breath, but the view is much better.” There are tons of studies and books (like the Happiness Curve) that prove that people really start to get happy with their lives at around age 55.
But while my inner world is improving, my outer shell still needs ongoing TLC. I thought I’d recap some tips that my friends and I share about how to stay tuned up. These aren’t rules by any means (we hate those) but let’s just say food for thought.
Facial hair - Are you getting a little peach fuzzy? Mara and I have been shaving our faces with the Tinkle facial razor. It sounds strange but it’s easy and makes you feel super clean, plus you create a better surface to absorb those pricey serums. Watch this YouTube video beforehand – a bit horrifying, but it made us laugh and taught us things.
Eyebrows - As we age, our brows gradually thin and it’s bold defined brows that are thick and healthy that give the illusion of a younger face (I heart you Brooke Shields). So, best to stop plucking your eyebrows. Fill in any gaps with a soft pencil, like the Nars Brow Perfector, and/or use the cult favorite Glossier Boy Brow brush.
Thanks to my bff Shannon, we dye our eyebrows every couple of weeks with Just for Men/Beards - an inexpensive DYI and so easy. Some people say castor oil stimulates hair growth but I’ve applied Minoxidil (generic Rogaine) from the drugstore twice a day and seen great results. This was a tip from Mara’s celebrity make-up artist (she’s Gwyneth’s NY person, need I say more?).
Earrings - As our skin loses collagen and elasticity, everything starts to sag a bit, including our ear lobes. Seriously? So I try to avoid heavy earrings and look for styles that cover the actual hole - like these diamond embellished bar studs.
Make-up - A heavy or matte formula foundation can sit on your skin and accentuate wrinkles. I’ve switched to a lighter feeling tinted moisturizer, Nars Pure Radiant with spf 30. I used to always finish my look with powder and never thought twice about changing it. But powder was settling into wrinkles and magnifying lines in my skin.
Blush - If you had to choose one make-up item to take with you on a desert island (ok, why would you do that?) consider a rosy blush like Nars Orgasm in the creamy stick - it brings instant glow, life and health to your face. We carry Olio e Osso #2 tinted balm for a quick pick-up to cheeks and lips throughout the day.
Lipstick - The borders of our lips soften over time and lipstick migrates easily. Use a finger or a lip brush so you don’t put too much pigment on your mouth and use a liner that matches your lip color, not your lipstick color. Mara loves her Sephora nude gel lip liner (we had to make 3 visits to Sephora because it keeps selling out).
Lower lashes - Apparently we should leave the lower lashes alone. Doing stuff there can make eyes look droopy and draws attention to dark circles. So, just curl your upper lashes and use a volumizing mascara on top - we love Lancome Hyponse - but leave the bottom alone. (Party on top…)
Hairstyle - You found a hairstyle that works and you’ve stuck with it. Maybe just maybe consider making a change - they say you should switch up your cut at least once each decade.
Wearing Vintage - You might want to consider just buying an updated version of your favorite vintage style vs. keeping things around in the hope that it will come back. Usually the style changes a bit and the item from your closet may look outdated and not cool at all. And pearls? Mara feels very strongly about pearls (put them away) and says if you ARE vintage you shouldn’t WEAR vintage.
Overall, the golden rules, the undisputed truths - Use sunscreen always. Drink lots of water. Moisturize a lot and use some form of retinol on your face. Keep moving - it’s well proven that exercise of any kind not only extends your life, more importantly it improves your quality of life. And of course, eat right. My friend Amy Shapiro, MS, RD and founder of Real Nutrition, says that while both exercise and nutrition are important for a healthy life, it’s 75% what you eat - basically, “you can’t outrun a bad diet”.